BUT don't use/buy/dress/talk/walk/blink/enunciate/pronounce/show emotion outside of the prescribed stereotypical gender/sex you were born with.
Lol.
There are a lot of problems this creates for a lot of genders. But I'll let's just look at a few.
1. People are free to practice whichever religion they want. (1) (2) (3) (4)
2. You're not supposed to impose or talk about your opinion on your religion or a certain religion/s with anyone. It's typically a thorny path to burned bridges. (1) (2)
3. People are free to express their own opinion or views on things (to a legal degree I suppose).
4. Not everyone is kind, loving and open-minded —Some hate, demean and/or degrade people. (Pretty sure you're not supposed to do that in any religion, but I could be wrong. Anyone?)
5. If you're to follow the bible completely you wouldn't be able to live as you do now in our modern society. (If you're menstruating you're impure! If someone touches you-hand etc.- while you're menstruating then they become impure!)
6. People like to nitpick what's in the bible. (Gays are bad!...but so are a million other things but let's ignore that.)
7. What consenting adults do behind closed-doors (i.e. their bedroom. i.e. sex) is a private matter and should be of no concern to the public other than those involved.
8. Likening people who are gay to animals (or rather worse than animals) is derogatory, bigoted, unkind and uncompassionate.
9. Science (and life) has already proven that animals engage in "gay" sex for pleasure and/or companionship. (1) (2) (3)
10. Being in a position of influence (i.e. politician) tends to mean you look at things in a legal manner not religious manner. (i.e. Separation of Church and State but hey who does that ever in the PH?)
See YouTuber Philip DeFranco's thoughts about the issue in the video below.
Let's talk about Manny Pacquiao saying "gay people are worse than animals."Because WOW...
Posted by Philip DeFranco on Wednesday, 17 February 2016
11. The LGBTQ community with their friends and families are asking for the legal unions. No religion involved necessary. (but if you're okay with it, which I sincerely doubt, that's good too.)
12. Not giving them (LGBTQ) legal rights, as you would other "straight" couples, is dehumanizing and extremely prejudiced against a certain group. (and not to mention bad...just in case you forgot)
13. Being attracted to the same sex does not make you any less of a human being.
14. Saying (or Acting like) that other people are beneath you (non "straight" people) and do not deserve the same rights you have solely based on what sex they find attractive is idiotic to the highest degree.
15. The bible is literally hundreds of years old and should have no bearing in a progressive, fair and modern society.
16. Religion was made by man. (I mean that's pretty self-explanatory in itself but if you need help- here )
17. You shouldn't be wary of people without religion, you should be wary of people who need religion to be good. (I rely on my conscience to do good and be kind. Maybe some people would be lost and turn to illegal activities if their religion were to cease to exist?)
18. A lot (not all) in the bible is degrading and unfair towards women (1) (2) (3)
19. The bible were stories made by people, hundreds of years ago and were deleted, translated, interpreted, rearranged and edited by other people over time. (1)
20. How do you expect to be civilized human beings when you ostracize others for not liking the same things as you? (Are we in Kindergarten? Di tayo bati pag ayaw mo laruan ko!)
I still respect Manny for his craft and his dedication to boxing. He's an amazing boxer no doubt about that. He has represented the Philippines and has often brought us immense pride with his great passion for boxing. And I will probably continue to support him as the boxer, but I cannot upon my good conscience support him when he said that. (Read I have not lambasted nor persecuted him. I respect his religion as I respect any man's religion. I cannot force someone to like something I like. I heard his apology, whether it was sincere or not it was given when it was due and I appreciate it. But I cannot unhear his words and more importantly the words of others who think gay people should be 'converted' by knowing God. Conversion therapy anyone?.)
I know that it's not new. The super-religious-guy-says-something-against-homosexuals is not new. These are just my thoughts. I have no hate towards Catholicism, Christianity or any other religion (unless that religion is reaally messed-up) and no ill will towards people who practice certain religions. I respect yours and I only urge you to keep an open mind and do the same. *sips hot chocolate*
xx,
CJ
PS. Malamang merong mga pilosopo at sasabihing pano yung mga rapists, pedophiles, mamamatay-tao, magnanakaw etc. Malamang masama yon.
PPS. Civil unions (you know the ones not in church?) help couples with legal benefits in healthcare, insurance, tax breaks and other rights befitting a spouse.
PPPS. But aren't we ALL animals in this world? *thinks deeply while massaging feet*
PPPPS. If you practice any religion (or none) and you do good, help and are kind to other people regardless of their social status, sexual preference, education, race, economic standing etc. then I think you're an amazing human and keep doing what you're doing!
There's not a lot of women's support groups regarding business and entrepreneurship. Or at least they're not as visible. Yes there are ones that are modeled for the general public but they don't "get" the nuances of being a woman and subsequently a woman entrepreneur and may lack the appropriate mentorship, nudge and training some women need.
That's the number one goal of WINGS — to meet like-minded women entrepreneurs and create a positive dynamic team within a nurturing group of professionals for personal growth, business benefits ...and more.
Ava De Guzman - Founder and Director of Bridge of Hope and Wings. Based in California.
WINGS (Women's International Network Giving Support) is an organization of empowered women entrepreneurs and professionals locally and abroad that understand the values of collaboration for enhancing business acumen for financial prosperity and personal fulfillment.
WINGS organization as a whole aims to provide foundational and authentic support to all members including five important resources: Community, Recommendations, Mentorship, Team Support, and Power Partners. As a program of Bridge of Hope - World, a non-profit 501(c)3 organization helping single mothers, abused women, and orphans in the poorest communities worldwide, WINGS will impart and teach the values of philanthropy or charitable giving for common good-will as well as the business credibility edge it brings.
The lovely Ella (who painstakingly made the event run smoothly) kindly invited me to their official launch in the Philippines at Chardonnay by Astoria.
Raw and organic food. Organic body care and handcrafted accessories were available for the attendees.
Everyone was treated to great awe-inducing, heroic, touching and very personal stories of how the speakers' do what they do and what they went through to get where they are now. Believe me their stories were staggeringly incredible to say the least especially Dr. Michiyo Ambrosius's (went to the US from Japan by herself at 20 with a few dollars in her pocket and not a lick of English) and Janet Belarmino's (went through very rigorous training to climb Mount Everest 3 MONTHS after giving birth).
Dr. Michiyo Ambrosius renowned and seasoned Psychologist, Author and Personal Coach based in California.
From left : Janet Belarmino (Most sought after inspirational speaker in Asia and one of the first women in the world to reach the top of Mt. Everest. Based in the Philippines.) and Elaine Leung (Served as the VP of Marketing and Business Development of a successful global IT Consulting firm where she increased revenue from $12 million to $25 million in one year in key growth markets such as healthcare and biotech. Based in California)
From left : Janet Belarmino (Most sought after inspirational speaker in Asia and one of the first women in the world to reach the top of Mt. Everest. Based in the Philippines.) and Elaine Leung (Served as the VP of Marketing and Business Development of a successful global IT Consulting firm where she increased revenue from $12 million to $25 million in one year in key growth markets such as healthcare and biotech. Based in California)
Here are some helpful links :
- To see if you have a Wings Chapter in your area or if you yourself want to apply as an ambassador click (here) and to become a member click (here).
- If you just want to observe first there's an upcoming event in Quezon City via this Facebook group (here) Psst...Mention this blog so they know where you got the info ;)
"Commemorative Photo!"
xx,
CJ
PS. She climbed a snowy mountain complete with snow storms 3 MONTHS after giving birth. MIC DROP. And Dr. Michiyo got on a boat (from Japan) with change as travel money and whatever she could carry on her back to make a life in the US while barely speaking English. Did I tell you she studied by translating every single English word in her books and classmate's notes to Japanese using a dictionary just so she could understand the day's lesson? MIC STAND DROP.
http://www.wingsupport.org/
https://www.facebook.com/WINGS4Philippines
Majority of 2015 I was feeling unqualified and insatiable, unworthy and bullheaded. I was feeling down but I didn't really like that; It didn't feel good so I trudged on. I denied what I was feeling and the more I did that and the more my life refused to adhere to what I was envisioning, the heavier my heart sank.
In retrospect I didn't realize that I had a lot going for me this past year, i.e. my blog. It's easy to overlook the small accomplishments in face of your perceived "goals" or success. I like to think I've grown this past year. :)
I already know and understand everything below but I do slip sometimes so I like to remind myself of these nuggets of wisdom. Here are five things I want to take in with me into 2016.
Never compare your life to others
It is extremely easy to compare how your life is going to your peer's when you open your Facebook. Extremely easy. Those "instagram models" and young hot celebrities that go to exotic places before they're even legal to drink can make some put on those emerald green shades.
But you have to understand, what people post on their social profiles are highlights of what they want you to see. Most of these are stories they concocted to make it seem like their life is smooth sailing all the way, but it's rarely that. Everyone has struggles, they might not just post it.
Your success is defined by you. Not by your school, parents, friends and society.
Have a great job after college. Get an amazing house by 30. Have a family before 35. Retire by 40. Have your own thriving start-up as soon as you can. Etc. Etc. Etc. You know how that goes.
Remember, this is your life. Your rules. Success for a fisherman is getting enough to sell and take home for the family whilst success for a CEO might be closing a billion-dollar deal. Success is subjective. It's a state of mind. It differs from person to person.
Celebrate those "small" accomplishments!
Getting up early for 2 weeks straight after perpetually being a night owl. Quitting caffeine after years of being a coffee junkie. Signing up for a dance class when you have two left feet.
Those things might seem inconsequential compared to your other "real" "adult" goals, but habits and long term success start from those little seemingly inconsequential things. So pat yourself on the back. It might not seem much for now but keeping to consistency very rarely doesn't pay off.
If your friendship/relationship becomes toxic. Walk away.
Friends. Family. Business. Bottom line if they're hurting you even after civil communication and trying to understand them, just leave. Not that you should burn bridges, you should just walk away.
It's not giving up. It's choosing your happiness.
Don't be afraid to say yes. Don't be afraid to say no.
It's tricky. "Fear of missing out" is a real and valid thing. It's also not good to agree to everything then force yourself to enjoy it. But once you get to master it you know who to say no to or who to say yes to. Including opportunities.
My blog didn't start picking up until late 2014 to early 2015. At the start of last year, I've been consistent with posts, pictures and updates. I said yes to most opportunities that fell on my lap. Opportunities that made me grow as a professional and as a person and if it weren't for that I wouldn't have met new and interesting people. I wasn't afraid to say no too. Other things that fell on my lap felt off-brand and just off period, so I politely refused. And that's ok.
How about you? Any life lessons you learned last 2015? How are you planning to attack 2016? :)
xx,
CJ
In retrospect I didn't realize that I had a lot going for me this past year, i.e. my blog. It's easy to overlook the small accomplishments in face of your perceived "goals" or success. I like to think I've grown this past year. :)
I already know and understand everything below but I do slip sometimes so I like to remind myself of these nuggets of wisdom. Here are five things I want to take in with me into 2016.
Never compare your life to others
It is extremely easy to compare how your life is going to your peer's when you open your Facebook. Extremely easy. Those "instagram models" and young hot celebrities that go to exotic places before they're even legal to drink can make some put on those emerald green shades.
But you have to understand, what people post on their social profiles are highlights of what they want you to see. Most of these are stories they concocted to make it seem like their life is smooth sailing all the way, but it's rarely that. Everyone has struggles, they might not just post it.
Your success is defined by you. Not by your school, parents, friends and society.
Have a great job after college. Get an amazing house by 30. Have a family before 35. Retire by 40. Have your own thriving start-up as soon as you can. Etc. Etc. Etc. You know how that goes.
Remember, this is your life. Your rules. Success for a fisherman is getting enough to sell and take home for the family whilst success for a CEO might be closing a billion-dollar deal. Success is subjective. It's a state of mind. It differs from person to person.
Celebrate those "small" accomplishments!
Getting up early for 2 weeks straight after perpetually being a night owl. Quitting caffeine after years of being a coffee junkie. Signing up for a dance class when you have two left feet.
Those things might seem inconsequential compared to your other "real" "adult" goals, but habits and long term success start from those little seemingly inconsequential things. So pat yourself on the back. It might not seem much for now but keeping to consistency very rarely doesn't pay off.
If your friendship/relationship becomes toxic. Walk away.
Friends. Family. Business. Bottom line if they're hurting you even after civil communication and trying to understand them, just leave. Not that you should burn bridges, you should just walk away.
It's not giving up. It's choosing your happiness.
Don't be afraid to say yes. Don't be afraid to say no.
It's tricky. "Fear of missing out" is a real and valid thing. It's also not good to agree to everything then force yourself to enjoy it. But once you get to master it you know who to say no to or who to say yes to. Including opportunities.
My blog didn't start picking up until late 2014 to early 2015. At the start of last year, I've been consistent with posts, pictures and updates. I said yes to most opportunities that fell on my lap. Opportunities that made me grow as a professional and as a person and if it weren't for that I wouldn't have met new and interesting people. I wasn't afraid to say no too. Other things that fell on my lap felt off-brand and just off period, so I politely refused. And that's ok.
How about you? Any life lessons you learned last 2015? How are you planning to attack 2016? :)
xx,
CJ
Boy or girl. Man or woman of any age. Have you ever heard of catcalling? Well let me tell you, it's a very powerful thing. It can make your ego and sense of worth soar through the roof just by doing "seemingly innocent" things to other people! *wink*.
You might think that that's dangerous. That you don't want to do uncomfortable and disrespectful things to other people.There're bound to be repercussions right?
You might think that that's dangerous. That you don't want to do uncomfortable and disrespectful things to other people.There're bound to be repercussions right?
And I admit yes, there are. But good news is they're not on your head! The ones who'll feel the negative repercussions are the ones you catcall and the people who notice the catcalling. Over time society in general will think that catcalling is perfectly okay, normal and to be expected. So you won't find anyone stopping you and/or (god forbid) beating you up!
Here are some basic notes to start you on your perverse and satisfying journey.
- Make sure the person is by themselves. Standing or walking on the street (crowded or not) — it doesn't matter.
- Socially acceptable greetings like "Hi/Good Morning/Good Evening Miss/Love/BabeAte", "Hello beautiful/gorgeous/sexy" can be used.
- But if you're feeling like a dog in heat "Sarap/Delicious/Yummy/Yum", "Dayum Girl" "You can sit on my face all day" or "Here puss puss puss" are usable too.
- You can match what you say with a leer, lip smack, smooch noises and "mmmm" sounds as well.
- Make sure they're walking and you're standing, they're standing and you're walking OR you're both walking when you say and/or shout your preferred terms/sentences. This ensures that they won't know who actually said it and/or they'll be too scared/busy to actually stop and confront you about it.
- You can even do it from your vehicle! Just shout or whistle loudly enough for them to hear. You're completely safe because you're on the road and there's an easy getaway. Kinda like drive-thru!
- Remember you can only shout when you're at a safe distance and or when you're with your "bros". There is strength in numbers. And you'd want to impress them with your catcalling skills. Great ego boost and plus points from your friends.
- As much as possible wait until your target and you are exactly parallel and close enough for you to whisper your greetings and/or compliments.
- Yes. Whispering is the medium of choice in the Philippines. This is what discreet people do to not attract any attention from other people they're not catcalling. Whispering is more powerful that way —it's more intimate.
- Don't worry if you think that person's a minor. If they look like a passable adult to you, or even if they don't. Catcall away. It's to condition society that people are and can be like this and getting encounters like this from the streets at an everyday basis is the norm.
- Always remember, if you get caught or if you get confronted. Act innocent. As innocent as the day you were born. Be defensive if you have to. Blame the person for wearing "so and so" because if they didn't want to get attention they wouldn't wear "so and so". Doesn't matter if it's subjective and these are just your opinions. Blame the clothes. Go as far as to say they were "asking for it" then angrily storm off. Don't let them waste your time and kill the ego boost you just got.
Now you're equipped! Go forth and shape society into a mold where these things cannot and will not be stopped.
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THIS IS NEVER OKAY. IT WILL NEVER BE OKAY. AND IT'S NOT ACCEPTABLE.
"Just because it's what's been done, doesn't mean it's what should be done."
I don't know if you can tell but this was a completely sarcastic post. A satire. I tried to justify what comes into these people's minds but it just can't be justified.
"Just because it's what's been done, doesn't mean it's what should be done."
I don't know if you can tell but this was a completely sarcastic post. A satire. I tried to justify what comes into these people's minds but it just can't be justified.
It's really all about power. People who catcall and go as far as to stalk and hurt you if you don't acknowledge their "compliments" do exist and that's a really valid and scary thing.
Stop doing this. Stop people from doing this. Why do they not understand this? Why can't they comprehend? You can try to stop them by a shout to the harasser or a simple "Hey are you okay?" to the one being harassed just to make them feel that you yourself, saw that inappropriate behavior and you're not just gonna turn a blind eye.
xx,
CJ
PS. Yeah I got the quote from Cinderella 2015. It's a great quote.
PPS. These are just SOME of the generous "compliments" women in your life get thrown with whenever they go out alone or in the company of other women.
PPPS. We talk/shout back. We walk faster. We ignore. Nothing so far works as far as my experience has taught me. It's hard to hold them accountable because they'll exclaim innocence and no other person on the street will help you mainly because "It's none of their business."
Image sources : Same from my last post about catcalling.
Last , October 17th I was invited by the Cathy Valencia team to their branch blessing and intimate launching of their latest line at Eastwood City.
Cathy Valencia Advanced Skin Clinic - Established in 2002 - more than a decade in the skin and beauty industry- it's one of the most prominent and trusted clinics until today.
Its President and CEO, Ms. Cathy Valencia-Lim is a duly certified skin expert, having completed a degree in Atopic Dermatitis and Acne Management in Izumo Hospital in Shimane-Ken, Japan, plus extensive training in Beautiful Earth Skin Products under Dr. Tetsuo Santo of Beautiful Earth USA Incorporated. With her expertise and dedication to skin care, Cathy Valencia does not settle for anything below par.
Knowing her background as you walk in one of their clinics you can immediately tell that you'll be in good and capable hands. The posh color scheme and delicate furnishings give off a warm and tasteful luxury that Cathy Valencia-Lim herself seems to evoke.
The brand ambassadors of Cathy Valencia Skin Clinic and Cedrix [Their slimming center], Isabel Oli- Prats and Camille Prats along with Cathy Valencia-Lim.
With services that range from simple facials and peels to laser treatments and cosmetic surgery CV has covered all there is to cover when it comes to aesthetic beautification.
Knowing the clinic's impressive roster of clients and endorsers [Rufa Mae Quinto, James Yap, Erich Gonzales and Vina Morales to name a few] I asked Ms. Cathy Valencia, what she could tell the young professionals so they won't be to intimidated to get something done for themselves.
Their latest products — The Eternal Youth line. Lightening Cream, Soft Cream and Anti-aging Sunscreen SPF 50
- Eternal Youth Lightening Cream - A natural skin lightening cream that inhibits melanin formation and provides exceptional brightening benefits fading the appearance of dark scars and discolorations. Fights photo-ageing, increases smoothness and cell vitality.
- Eternal Youth Soft Cream [For day and night] - Aids in cell repair and longevity. Hydrates dead skin and rejuvenates skin cells. Formulated with bioactive polypeptides and biometic peptides that compensate for the natural loss of youth proteins as we age. --- wow.
- Eternal Youth Anti-Aging Sunscreen with SPF 50 - Stimulates DNA repair mechanism after UV irradiation. A fast-acting cream that provides all-day moisture delivering a visible lift and reduces the risk of developing chronic photodamage.
She mentioned the importance of spending on yourself to be the best version of you when meeting new people and just for the fact that one needs to indulge a little. And I agree, one does need to indulge from time to time and what better investment than yourself? Especially young professionals, who work hard (and party harder) hustling away, taking care of yourself should be top priority.
After all prevention is better than the cure.
Employing cutting-edge technology and showcasing an extensive range of products made from materials imported and specially formulated in Japan, USA, France along with rigorous testing and certifications from international and local quality control standards, their pricing is still affordable according to them. Given how long they've been in the industry, their prices might be a little more steep than the casual "facial place" you might frequent.
I'll be visiting their clinic soon for a facial so I'll let you guys know about the prices and how everything goes ;).
xx,
CJ
PS. For more information about their products and services you can visit their Facebook or website or you can give them a ring!
PPS. Their prices according to them, are crafted to your specific needs, so you won't find a pricelist online.
PPPS. They currently have a promo for their Eternal Youth Peel, 40% off for people aged 40+ at their Eastwood branch.
Website : http://cathyvalencia.com/
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/cathyvalenciacenter
Instagram : @cathyvalencia
Tel : +6329135189 | +639173732838
Most people probably don't know about C&C Salon. This secluded and somewhat hush-hush nail haven might be a challenge to some who don't have a keen eye and/or are not familiar with the BGC area.
Don't fret because I was invited by Cookie last October 7th to experience C&C Salon first hand, to give you guys the low-down.
We proceeded inside after a little chat with this timid cutie where I learned that not only were the managers young, they were still in school. High school and College to be more specific.
What was made evident to me though was that the tools to be used on every person was sanitized, sterilized and individually wrapped to ensure the guest's safety. That gets a two thumbs up for me because people don't know how easy it is to get infections from communal nail clippers and files. *cringe*
All-in-all a quaint little secret spot to treat your self. As C&C puts it, if you don't treat yourself, you cheat yourself!
Thanks for inviting me Cookie!
xx,
CJ
PS. Have you tried this place before? Or any place you'd like to recommend for nails?
PPS. They're working on the wi-fi for people eager to update their social media to instagram their new nail colour or catch up on some work. :)
PPPS. Say hi to the managers for me if you do drop by!
C & C Salon
Address : UGF, F1 Hotel Manila, 32nd St. Bonifacio Global City,
Taguig, Metro Manila, Philippines
Telephone : (02) 257-4280 (0927) 972-6143
Facebook : https://facebook.com/CheeneeAndCookieSalon
I came in about an hour after the supposed meeting time [got lost] and chanced upon one of the managers — Cookie while I was taking pictures of the entrance.
We proceeded inside after a little chat with this timid cutie where I learned that not only were the managers young, they were still in school. High school and College to be more specific.
The salon was put up by their mother and she manages it along with her two daughters — Cheenee and Cookie [C&C]. Situated in BGC and in a fairly nondescript hotel I asked, why here?
"It's near our home and the rent is reasonable." Cookie stated.
Apart from that, being dab smack in the heart of the business district I could agree it was a smart choice. Their guests are mainly working people taking some me-time after a hard day at work as well as locals in the area.
"It's near our home and the rent is reasonable." Cookie stated.
Apart from that, being dab smack in the heart of the business district I could agree it was a smart choice. Their guests are mainly working people taking some me-time after a hard day at work as well as locals in the area.
Going in I was greeted with pale gray, white and purple shades and contemporary interiors with a comfortable and relaxing "homey" vibe. Kind of like your Aunt's shabby-chic-rustic-modern-contemporary home that you can relax in but you better not get dirt on her white suede armchair.
The concept I gathered, was to not be ostentatiously royal and not be ostentatiously glittery so the men won't be scared and actually encourage them to get something done themselves.
The space was tiny but cozy and fully air-conditioned [a must in this part of the world]. There were four chairs on the lower ground and upstairs were a sofa, a love seat and a massage bed. Perfect for spa dates with the beau or the squad.
I got the Classic Curtsy which includes this amazing foot reflex massage. I don't know if my feet were just especially tired but that massage was everything. The whole treatment was fairly standard for a nail salon I would say. The prices are appropriate especially for the ambiance and the great service I got from Cookie.
What was made evident to me though was that the tools to be used on every person was sanitized, sterilized and individually wrapped to ensure the guest's safety. That gets a two thumbs up for me because people don't know how easy it is to get infections from communal nail clippers and files. *cringe*
If you're wondering about the polish selection, they don't have a massive array of colors but the basics are there. The brands they carry are Orly, Morgan Taylor [vegan], Sally Hansen, Revlon, Cutex and Maybelline. They also offer gels — Gellish [vegan] and True Gel.
All-in-all a quaint little secret spot to treat your self. As C&C puts it, if you don't treat yourself, you cheat yourself!
Thanks for inviting me Cookie!
xx,
CJ
PS. Have you tried this place before? Or any place you'd like to recommend for nails?
PPS. They're working on the wi-fi for people eager to update their social media to instagram their new nail colour or catch up on some work. :)
PPPS. Say hi to the managers for me if you do drop by!
C & C Salon
Address : UGF, F1 Hotel Manila, 32nd St. Bonifacio Global City,
Taguig, Metro Manila, Philippines
Telephone : (02) 257-4280 (0927) 972-6143
Facebook : https://facebook.com/CheeneeAndCookieSalon
"You wear too much makeup."
Maybe you've said it or you might have been on the receiving end. But unbeknownst to many it can be embarrassing or even detrimental to the psyche or confidence of the one you're saying it to. Let's dissect this a bit, what exactly is makeup shaming?
Makeup shaming is when you judge people by how much or how little makeup they wear and/or whether they're male or female.
I've been guilty of this years ago when I was younger. I used to think makeup was only for super special occasions. So whenever I saw anyone outside that "socially acceptable" norm I would judge fiercely and say something like "Mag-dedebut is ate" or "San yung party?" (She's going to a debutante's ball. / Where's the party? Effect is heightened with the added sneer or eye-roll.)
It's so so embarrassing for me to admit it but I was that person. I take back and I deeply apologize to all the people I've said that to even if the comments were just to myself.
"You don't have to wear makeup. You're pretty enough."
There's this misconception that if you wear makeup, you're compensating for something which is [more often than not] your natural "unpretty" face (total BS).
Now, everyone has their reason/s for wearing makeup. Some people think it's fun and should be an enjoyable hobby for anyone. Others use it to channel their creativity and artistry. Others use it to just feel a little more put-together and be ready for what's ahead of them by concealing or perfecting a few features. Or even a combination of all mentioned.
Remember, you're beautiful with or without makeup. ❤
"Boys can't wear makeup. Only girls can."
I feel like we're still leagues behind on unbiased acceptance regarding boys liking or wearing makeup. And when men do wear makeup, they're labeled as "gay", "transgender", "metrosexual" (stupid term TBH) or "lacking moral/ fatherly support". As if it can only be tolerable when a guy is gay, vain, effeminate and/or didn't have someone traditionally paternal to look up to.
Let's get this straight (pun not intended).
Makeup shouldn't only be a woman-thing. It's makeup. Why are we putting genders on it? In the early times, makeup was a symbol of wealth and power. It was socially acceptable and actually even necessary for men to have a little something on their face so they can be separated from the lower-class [who couldn't afford such luxuries].
I believe it only changed because of marketing. Makeup shifted its target and focused solely on women, which made it weird for men to be seen wearing or even going near cosmetics, including skincare.
Bottom line makeup can and should be used by anyone for their own personal purpose. In that regard let's cease the terrible judging and just mind each other's faces. No one's getting hurt. So wear that purple lipstick. It's just makeup anyway.
xx,
CJ
I haven't touched all there is regarding the issue but these are the main thoughts that sprung onto mind. I might make a part 2 of this but what do you think? What are your thoughts on the issue?
It was about three years ago, give or take, when we were introduced to the "wonder" oil after the Maracuja phenomena —the Argan oil. Seemingly out of nowhere this oil became the highly "lemmed" beauty elixir that promised a myriad of things from the understandable moisturization to a remedy for skin allergies etc etc etc.
WHAT IS ARGAN OIL?
Argan Oil is one of the rarest oils in the world. It's a plant oil produced from nut kernels of argan trees which only grow in Morocco. The oil can be ingested and applied topically (which is how it's popularly used today).
After my moment with a falsely marketed "100% pure" argan oil (review here) I started using a 100% legitimate argan oil and my facial routine to be honest has never been the same again. Whilst I was using that particular argan oil, I still searched for other options available in the Philippines.
There are a number of brands all claiming authenticity, most of them found in online shops but I haven't found any that personally rung my feminist heart as much as Wellspring of Morocco has.
There are a number of brands all claiming authenticity, most of them found in online shops but I haven't found any that personally rung my feminist heart as much as Wellspring of Morocco has.
KNOWN BENEFITS
- Heals and repairs acne marks, dark spots, cracked heels, dry skin and elbows.
- Heals skin allergies such as psoriasis, eczema, and skin asthma.
- Maintains skin elasticity which prevents stretch marks during pregnancy.
- Prevents scalp problems such as dandruff, dry hair and hair loss.
- Reduces fine lines and wrinkles (anti-aging).
ABOUT WELLSPRING OF MOROCCO ARGAN OIL
Wellspring of Morocco Argan Oil comes from the argan oil cooperatives in Essaouira region in southwestern Morocco. Their argan oil is extracted from argan nuts through traditional means by tribes of Berber women.
Every purchase made contributes to a worthy cause and consumers indirectly take part in the fair-trade movement by supporting and empowering the women cooperatives and tribes that produce the argan oil.
Apparently extracting the oils is extremely labor intensive. It can take up to eight hours for one woman to crush enough nuts for one liter of oil. Being as labor intensive as it is, these women do it proudly and confidently as this provides them the social and economic freedom they wouldn't have otherwise.
Medina, Essaouira - Image via travelchannel.com
Not only that, Wellspring of Morocco Argan Oil is also sourced directly from traditional, government - authorized, Ecocert and USDA organic certified Argan oil cooperatives in Essaouira Morocco.
EXPERIENCE | SCENT | TEXTURE
Argan oil according to discerning beauty articles, is supposed to smell "nutty" or "popcorn-ey" which rings true for this particular brand. It's thin, watery and clear. It doesn't have that yellow-tinge some oils have.
I use it as my night moisturizer and sometimes as my day moisturizer. It feels light on the skin and hasn't given me any problems when used under makeup or mixed with makeup. I'll gladly continue using argan oil or facial oils for that matter as a healthier more natural and organic alternative to chemical-based moisturizers.
This 10 ml starter bottle retails for Php 280 and I've had this bottle for a little over three weeks. I'm currently down to half. My usual amount is three to four drops so I'm sure after a month I'll be out of it. If you limit yourself to two drops nightly (skip during the day) I'm sure this will last a lot longer.
If want to get into facial oils or want to try out argan oil, this 10 ml noncommittal bottle is a good start. Oily or acne-prone skin need not be alarmed with putting oil on the face as these are supposed to help soothe the skin. For the record I have sensitive skin with dry patches and mild rosacea and I've had no problems with it.
Have you tried argan oil? What other facial oils have you tried?
xx,
CJ
PS. My friend who owns/sells this contacted me if I wanted to give it a try. Naturally I said yes! They also have 30 ml bottles for Php 800.
PPS.
EDIT: Argan oil CAN come in un-tinted bottles, so people can see the golden colour of the oil. Argan oil that come in untinted bottles are supposedly of higher quality so it's deemed ok for light to pass through them but just to be safe, choose the tinted ones. They're usually in amber or blue bottles.
Bottom line it can come in clear or colored bottles but it should be glass (more eco-friendly and plastic also disturbs/changes the property of the oil). Wellspring of Morocco comes in a blue glass bottle just for branding consistency. :)
PPPS. For GOT fans, the series filmed some (or most) of their scenes in Morocco. Cool eh?
Further reading
- http://arganoilworld.com.au/10-argan-oil-benefits-for-hair-and-skin/
- http://skincare.about.com/od/skin101/a/Argan-Oil-Benefits-For-Skin-Hair-And-Body.htm
- http://draxe.com/argan-oil-benefits-skin-hair/
- https://www.arganfarm.com/blog/
- https://mirashand.wordpress.com/2013/05/23/the-truth-about-argan-oil/
- https://saadiaorganics.com/7-warning-signs-that-your-argan-oil-is-impure/
- http://www.essentialsyou.com/11-tips-to-buy-good-argan-oil/
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To be honest I have been weaning myself from sugary drinks, but Coca Cola's latest campaign of women entrepreneurship through small to medium businesses like sari-sari stores is hard to ignore. Especially since I like to think of myself as an empowered woman and I sincerely believe that sari-sari stores shouldn't be called as such unless they carry this quintessential beverage that has been around since the first patented engine. (Yes, I did my research)
Now while I do find it a little cheesy, I find the video cute too and it actually isn't far from the truth. I mean, we've seen it before. These stores build a community. And these stores help families and individuals as well, who've been looking to be their own bosses.
I might not want a sari-sari store of my own, but I do respect the fact that these women don't want to work for someone, they want their blood, sweat and tears to be for them, from their hard work. They are entrepreneurs whether they know it or not. Through this Share Sari Saring Happiness campaign, we all know Coca-Cola realized this too - that these small stores and most often than not, women owners are what helps keep Coca- Cola alive and thriving.
Training courses, business advice, financial services are the only starting points they're willing to share so no other obstacles can come in the way of empowering 5 million women by 2020 or 5by20 one of the goals of the Share Sari Saring Happiness.
Christmas is definitely over and done with, but the spirit is very much alive through this gift - it is still technically the Christmas season, and what better gift to receive than the opportunity to better yourself, support you and the people you love and become part of a growing community of women entrepreneurs who know what they want and have the support and whatever they need to achieve it.
What do you think of women entrepreneurs, women bosses or just women being women doing business like every other person out there. There are a lot of prejudices and glass ceilings, inconsistencies and unfair treatment when it comes to women in the workplace. I for one do not stand for gender inequality in this day and age.
Thoughts?
Now while I do find it a little cheesy, I find the video cute too and it actually isn't far from the truth. I mean, we've seen it before. These stores build a community. And these stores help families and individuals as well, who've been looking to be their own bosses.
I might not want a sari-sari store of my own, but I do respect the fact that these women don't want to work for someone, they want their blood, sweat and tears to be for them, from their hard work. They are entrepreneurs whether they know it or not. Through this Share Sari Saring Happiness campaign, we all know Coca-Cola realized this too - that these small stores and most often than not, women owners are what helps keep Coca- Cola alive and thriving.
Training courses, business advice, financial services are the only starting points they're willing to share so no other obstacles can come in the way of empowering 5 million women by 2020 or 5by20 one of the goals of the Share Sari Saring Happiness.
Christmas is definitely over and done with, but the spirit is very much alive through this gift - it is still technically the Christmas season, and what better gift to receive than the opportunity to better yourself, support you and the people you love and become part of a growing community of women entrepreneurs who know what they want and have the support and whatever they need to achieve it.
What do you think of women entrepreneurs, women bosses or just women being women doing business like every other person out there. There are a lot of prejudices and glass ceilings, inconsistencies and unfair treatment when it comes to women in the workplace. I for one do not stand for gender inequality in this day and age.
Thoughts?
xx,
CJ
Disclaimer : A 7th Champer the PR company who approached me to write about their latest campaign didn't pay me in any way (monetary/xdeal) for this post. I carefully and thoroughly scan companies who approach me whether or not they pay me. I base my judgement on the topic, company and voice of my blog.
Disclaimer : A 7th Champer the PR company who approached me to write about their latest campaign didn't pay me in any way (monetary/xdeal) for this post. I carefully and thoroughly scan companies who approach me whether or not they pay me. I base my judgement on the topic, company and voice of my blog.